Guild Drama strikes home
One of the things I failed to mention in earlier guild drama posts is that sometimes things happen in multiples. Scratch that – they almost always happen in multiples. And when a major event happens, things lurking under the surface blow up. And the end result is unsatisfying to everyone.
This past week my guild blew up. No, not fair. About two or three weeks ago the equanamity was cracked. The guild leader quit. Now there were excellent and important reasons for him to quit, but and it was actually necessary for him to do it pretty close to the way he did it. But I can’t think of an uglier way to hit a guild. He came on, without warning promoted another player to guild leader, and quit – guild, server, and game (for now). We got really, really lucky – the person he promoted was one of the people that everyone loves. You may have one in your guild – people at complete war will make peace at the table because it’s making that person uncomfortable. If you do, bless them and thank them for they are priceless treasures.
Anyway, she took over and a LOT of major problems surfaced. Actually, they’d been problems already, and had been dealt with somewhat roughly by the departing BM – and in a lot of ways were still unresolved. Due to the nature of our temp GM, we were able to bring out and start resolution of these without the usual backbiting and blame – a number of rule changes were agreed upon, and some things were tabled for what was supposed to be a month or two – at least till after the holidays (yet another stress issue).
Unfortunately, that person is not a good choice for guild master most of the time. Not due to incapability, but rather because by its nature the GM is rarely everyone’s friend. Someone has to be told no. The GM gets constant messages – which are quite different from the messages this sort of person usually gets and which are ON TOP of those messages. It is, quite literally, a huge stress. Add in some non-WoW issues and, once she thought we were past the heavy stress of the first impact, she bowed out of the position. She did it at a guild meeting, with open discussion, and a new guild leader was selected. Who instituted zero changes. But…
But he’d made enemies in the past. And there was at least one person who was equally qualified who some people wanted instead. A truly ugly fact in this is that both of these people had stated they were being placeholders till a guild election could be held – and neither WANTED to be the guild master. They, like me, had done it before. In their cases they were old hands in the guild and had earned a lot more trust than me. (I didn’t – don’t – want it. I cannot give 20+ hours to this game every week with at least an hour most days. And the way the guild is currently habituated that’s the minimum a GM must devote.)
Anyway, the acting GM suddenly received a lot of totally unexpected crap. He may or may not have earned it in the past – I wasn’t part of the guild at the time. But he got… I’ve heard several sides of the issue and nobody looks good in this. I am not sure there WAS a good solution after this part started.
Bluntly, there was a failure in trust. Trust in the GM by some people, trust the GM had that other people would back him was proven wrong, trust …
So the 3d GM decided to take a different solution. He announced he was leaving, gave the position to the other qualified person, and created his own guild. And then the part that will leave bad blood for a long time even though there were actually really good reasons for it – he asked various members of the first guild to leave and join his.
I have a suggestion, here, if any of you are in this GM’s position. Discuss it with your replacement ahead of time. Tell the whole guild you’re leaving due to irreconcilable differences, announce that any are welcome to go along, and then you AND your replacement give a window of ‘no recriminations’ for separation. As it is…
Those of us who leave are hated by the ones who stayed. Those who stay are hated by those who left. No, hatred is (for the most part) too strong a word. Certainly viewed with distrust and some scorn, though.
The guild I left prior to this I left because it disintegrated. Its members found themselves in three strong guilds. I made friends in this guild – friends I like as much as the ones who found themselves in two other guilds. Some of my friends left, and some stayed. And due to the nature, regardless of what happens I’m going to find myself losing contact with people I like.
Needless to say, this has impacted my pleasure in playing, and it’s had an impact on my writing. (I don’t really like lesson 5 on my writing macros – it’s a placeholder instead of advancement.) And even if I choose to do nothing, I’ve chosen by default.
The point is – this is why you try to keep GD minimalized. Not bury it, but lance it and clean it. Because if it’s allowed to fester, you get explosions, and then everyone loses to some extent.
To my fellow Sunfury guildies, past and present, whether you choose to stay or move on – and regardless of how I choose – be well, have fun, and hopefully you’ll have minimal misery out of this. If you’re needing a healer, give me a call.